The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
In a Stanford Business School talk, author Greg McKeown reflects on what holds capable, driven people from breaking through to the next level. He says that the answer to that question, surprisingly, is success. According to Greg, when executive teams focus on a few things, it leads to success. But success breeds more opportunities and…
Read MoreA Marriage to Remember
My mother, Pam White, has had a full life. In her 67 years she has raised three children, enjoyed a rewarding career as a social worker and been a devoted partner to my father, Ed. But as she puts it, “There’s just one little glitch”. In 2009, at age of 61, she was told that she had…
Read MoreMy Partner Hates My Job!
Gregory K. Popcak, Ph.D., MSW. Finding a balance between work and relationships is a challenge for everyone, but what if you and your partner disagree on what the balance is? It is not uncommon for one partner to feel like everything is “just fine” while the other partner feels more and more that he or…
Read MoreSleeping with a different woman every night
Married life is many things but it is never boring! When we are talking about marriage to high school students invariably some guy at the back of the room asks me as the husband “but doesn’t it get boring sleeping with the same women every night?”. In today’s confused understanding of sexuality it’s perhaps not…
Read MoreMy Many Marriages
We all understand that our marriages go through their ups and downs, but we often don’t appreciate that they also go through fundamental changes over the years. We have come to realise that we have actually had several marriages already in our 26 years together. For example, there was the ‘newlywed marriage’ where we were…
Read MoreHow Porn Kills Great Sex in Marriage
According to Sam Black of Covenant Eyes, there are four fundamental ways that pornography undermines marital sex. Contrary to expectations, porn won’t make you a better lover, it won’t spice things up, it certainly won’t help you deepen your understanding of God’s plan for your sex life. He explains how porn hurts a good sex…
Read MoreConscious Uncoupling Debunked
When Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their intention to ‘consciously uncouple’ last month, the twitter-sphere went crazy. Not only is a Hollywood bust up big news, everyone wanted to know what ‘conscious uncoupling’ was. The LA counsellor who hosts a website with the name found herself inundated with calls and her website crashing. Apparently,…
Read MoreA Fine Romance?
Re-posted with permission by Dr. Gregory Popcak Alexis and Jake have been married 11 years. They have three kids, two jobs, one dog and a whole lot of stress. “Sometimes it’s just so hard to find any time for each other.” Says Alexis. Jake agrees, “People always talk about how important date nights and other times…
Read MoreSave a marriage for $200
In July, the Federal Government’s pilot ‘relationship voucher scheme’ comes into effect. The trial period has budgeted for 100,000 couples to receive a $200 voucher towards the cost of a relationship education class run by approved providers. One has to ask: Why, with so many cutbacks in the budget, would the government initiate a $20…
Read MoreWhat my girly novels taught me about love
Selected from Agi Reefman’s blog: New Hope Talks When I wrote this post I was eyeball deep in some heavy theology. Seeing as my brain was pretty much fried from all that reading, I put away my usual reading material for some easy fluffy chick lit. You know the kind: boy meets girl, love at…
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