Loving Smart

How to Love Over many years we’ve come to realise that most of our mistakes in love come from the assumption that everyone experiences love the same way. A number of authors have developed frameworks to help us understand the foolishness of this idea. For example, in ‘The Five Love Languages’ Gary Chapman recognises that…

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Two of Us: At Our Best

A couple exercise to become aware of how we can bring each other to our best Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes so that you can share more fully with your spouse.   Prayer I know You love me, Father.  You have been so good to…

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Respect & Cherishment

What’s the Diff? While everyone experiences love uniquely, some clear gender patterns have emerged through relationship research. In one study, when given the option between the negative choices of being ‘alone and unloved in all the world’ or ‘inadequate and disrespected by everyone’, 74% of men preferred be alone and unloved, compared to only minority…

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Two of Us: Openness in Communication

A couple exercise to establish openness between spouses with the ability to speak freely Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes so that you can share more fully with your spouse.   Prayer Look with compassion upon me. Let Your love for me well in Your…

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Daily Appreciation

We all love to be appreciated. It feels good; it helps us to feel positive towards ourselves and towards the person expressing the appreciation. It is a genuinely loving gesture to express appreciation to another and, in marriage particularly, it is a positive relationship habit. Why is expressing appreciation of our spouse such a powerful…

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Two of Us: Me and You

A couple exercise to uncover our problems and move forward with hope for our relationship Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes so that you can share more fully with your spouse.     Prayer Father, sometimes You must laugh at me and shake Your head.  You…

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Two of Us: Self

Reflecting on self and recognising how we affect our spouse Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes so that you can share more fully with your spouse.     Prayer Father, how grand to be able to call You Father.  I’m going to be looking at myself. …

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Two of Us: Decisions in Marriage

A couple exercise to explore yourrelationship and the decisions you make Reflect Separately, say the prayer and spend some time reflecting on the questions. Write some notes so that you can share more fully with your spouse.     Prayer I just want to be close to You, at this moment, just taking a some time…

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